After Marriage

This week we discussed what it's like the first month to the first year of marriage. We made a list of some things that change when you first get married. They were things like: Budgeting, house work, sharing a bed, when to have kids, etc.
You come to find out that once you're married your life isn't completely your own anymore. And it's always hard once you get past the "Honeymoon phase" and you really start to see each other. That a relationship goes beyond just physical attraction. A truly healthy marriage will learn how to give and take and not just when or how to compromise because compromising isn't always a good thing. Sometimes you have to find another option that both can agree on.
What happens is the wife wants to live in LA but the husband wants to live in New York City? Well half way to both is somewhere in Nebraska so that should be fair right? No. That's when communication is key, you learn to talk about your different options. Maybe decide to live in one city for a few years and then move to the other. Or you talk about a similar city in another place, Miami or Boston.
But with time, maybe the spouse may get used to the parts of the marriage that used to bother them before. Granted, you cannot marry a person and expect them to change, but I have seen a few couples that have a change of heart in that manner. The truest form of love is putting someone else's needs or wants before your own.